In this video I share more about Bethany, who finds it hard to trust others, especially adults. In the video I include information that adults who interact with children and young people recovering from relational and developmental trauma need to know about how to build trust with young people like Bethany.

Hi. Bethany here.

People say I find it hard to trust others; especially adults.

I suppose they are right. Adults make me nervous.

I never know if they are going to be mean, or nice.

I avoid them, if I can.

If I can’t avoid them, I am super friendly towards them.

If that doesn’t make them be nice, I am really bossy.

I think I was born this way. Someone told me babies smile or cry to get attention and a response from adults.

I also frown and try to look like I am not to be messed with. I use bad words.

There is one adult I trust. They are super fun to be around, and they are often check in to see if I am OK.

They also know me well, because they keep saying what I would say if the words came out more easily.

They listen carefully to what I can say.

When I am happy, they are happy too.

When I am unhappy, they are unhappy. But then they seem to be happy again and I become happy again too.

They even know what activities I like and don’t like. They have activities that I like ready for me without me even having to ask!

Like I said, I guess they know me really well.

If other adults were the same, I wouldn’t find it hard to trust them.