Category Archives: Children’s Behaviour

Children’s behavior problems

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John was a superficially charming fourteen-year-old lad with bright red hair and a ready smile. I met John soon after I began my first appointment as a Clinical Psychologist. John was a Ward of the State. He was referred to … Continue reading

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Promoting Children’s Resilience: What you need to know!

On a sunny autumn day David, who was four years of age, travelled with his parents to a local park for a picnic. Upon their arrival, David and his parents observed a scene replete with the recreational delights of lush … Continue reading

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A tale of four children and their trip to the adventure playground: A resilience story

This following story represents an allegory for the approach to promoting resilience in children as found in the prologue to: Pearce, C. A Short Introduction to Promoting Resilience in Children. London: Jessica Kingsley, 2011 Once upon a time there were … Continue reading

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Taming Tantrums; Managing Meltdowns: Part Two

In Part One of this series, I refer to the fact that the management of severe tantrums and meltdowns in children is an arousal management issue, rather than a behaviour management issue. In this second part of the series, I … Continue reading

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Taming Tantrums; Managing Meltdowns: Part One

In my practice one of the more common presenting problems is severe tantrums, or meltdowns, in children. Common reactions among adults who care for these children include frustration, embarrassment, desperation and helplessness. Typically, these otherwise competent parents have tried a … Continue reading

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Survive the School Holidays

Stress is a major cause of demanding and unsettled behaviour in children. Under stress, the brains of children are hard-wired to set off behaviours associated with the fight-flight-freeze response: Fight:     Controlling, aggressive, destructive and demanding behaviour, hyperactivity Flight:    Running off, … Continue reading

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How parental expectations influence emotional involvement with our children

I am the father of three boys. I am also a Clinical Psychologist with more than sixteen years experience in child and family psychology. I have conducted more than 1000 assessments of children and their parents in child protection and … Continue reading

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Eyes are Mirrors for a Child’s Soul

Recently, I was approached by authorities at a school to conduct psychological assessments and provide direction regarding the care and management requirements of the thirteen most challenging children in the school. The school’s criteria for why these children were challenging … Continue reading

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What’s in a name? The problem with the “Helicopter Parent” metaphor

A helicopter is an aircraft that, amongst other things, allows its occupants to hover, observe and, where necessary (as in the case of emergencies), intervene. “Helicopter Parent” is a prejorative term used to refer to parents who are intrusively overprotective … Continue reading

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Why is consistency so important?

Be consistent is a parenting maxim that is often spoken about. But why is being consistent so important? An answer lies in a series of experiments that informed academic and applied psychology for more than half a century. During the … Continue reading

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