Category Archives: Favourites

Survive the School Holidays

Stress is a major cause of demanding and unsettled behaviour in children. Under stress, the brains of children are hard-wired to set off behaviours associated with the fight-flight-freeze response: Fight:     Controlling, aggressive, destructive and demanding behaviour, hyperactivity Flight:    Running off, … Continue reading

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How parental expectations influence emotional involvement with our children

I am the father of three boys. I am also a Clinical Psychologist with more than sixteen years experience in child and family psychology. I have conducted more than 1000 assessments of children and their parents in child protection and … Continue reading

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Eyes are Mirrors for a Child’s Soul

Recently, I was approached by authorities at a school to conduct psychological assessments and provide direction regarding the care and management requirements of the thirteen most challenging children in the school. The school’s criteria for why these children were challenging … Continue reading

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What’s in a name? The problem with the “Helicopter Parent” metaphor

A helicopter is an aircraft that, amongst other things, allows its occupants to hover, observe and, where necessary (as in the case of emergencies), intervene. “Helicopter Parent” is a prejorative term used to refer to parents who are intrusively overprotective … Continue reading

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Why is consistency so important?

Be consistent is a parenting maxim that is often spoken about. But why is being consistent so important? An answer lies in a series of experiments that informed academic and applied psychology for more than half a century. During the … Continue reading

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Benefits of music played while you sleep

Those who have read my various articles and/or my books will be aware of the positive impact I attribute to playing soothing classical music to children while they sleep. This morning I came across this interesting article; an exerpt from … Continue reading

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Reassuring Children

Today, my eight year old son drew my attention to his sore knee, which he bruised falling on stairs at our home yesterday. He has a nice purple bruise in the middle of his knee. When distracted, he walks fine … Continue reading

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Attached to the Unattached

My article Attached to the Unattached appears in the latest issue of SEN magazine. Check it out by following the link. I am really happy with how it has come up in the magazine and grateful for the opportunity to … Continue reading

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The Comeback Kid

My article entitled “The Comeback Kid” appears in this months edition of UK parenting magazine, Junior.

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Understanding Resilience

Adversity is a feature of the life of every child. It can be present when a child is learning a new skill, on their first day of school, when they are negotiating conflicts and when their ambition exceeds their ability. … Continue reading

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