Survive the School Holidays

Stress is a major cause of demanding and unsettled behaviour in children.

Under stress, the brains of children are hard-wired to set off behaviours associated with the fight-flight-freeze response:

  • Fight:     Controlling, aggressive, destructive and demanding behaviour, hyperactivity
  • Flight:    Running off, hiding, hyperactivity
  • Freeze:  Reduced responsiveness to the environment (e.g. not listening, daydreaming)

Routines provide structure and order to people’s lives, which is reassuring. The absence of routines is stressful.

Variety is the spice of life. But too much variety and too many choices can be overwhelming for children. Limit the number of choices of activity a child is given at any one time.

If your child is consistently misbehaving day after day, it is probably because they are used to following routines and being occupied throughout the day, as occurs during school term. Planning activities for your children on a day-to-day basis assists with structuring their day and will help with avoiding boredom and unsettled behaviour.

Vigorous physical activity is a useful way to reduce stress and alleviate boredom. Incorporate at-least 30 minutes of physical activity into your child’s daily routine (e.g. visiting a playground; riding a bike; walking the dog; trampoline time)

Endeavour to maintain routines, just as occurs during school times (e.g. bedtime, wake-time, mealtimes, activity time).

About colbypearce

I am a practising Clinical Psychologist with twenty-seven years’ experience working with children and young people recovering from abuse and neglect. I am also an author and educator in trauma-informed, therapeutic caregiving. My programs are implemented in Australia and Ireland, and I am well-known for my practical and accessible guidance for caregivers and professionals alike.
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1 Response to Survive the School Holidays

  1. colbypearce says:

    Reblogged this on Attachment and Resilience and commented:

    Reblogging as school holidays are approaching here in Australia!

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