Tag Archives: relationships

How can I tell what need or experience is the real reason for the child’s behaviour?

Watch this video to hear hear me talk about the real reasons for behaviours of concern exhibited by children and young people recovering from a tough start to life. You will hear about three key reflective questions to ask and … Continue reading

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Rethinking attachment theory in child protection

We need to distinguish between attachment relationship, and attachment style. Attachment relationships are the dependency relationships a child develops toward a caregiving adult. Primary attachment relationships reflect the child’s experience of care and protection from that adult. Attachment relationships that … Continue reading

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Attachment Theory Reconsidered: Embracing the Collective Role in Child Rearing

It takes a Village to raise a child. This widely-held axiom might be seen to contrast with representations of Attachment Theory as a white, western, middle-class theory of the mother-infant relationship. Is it right, then, to reject Attachment Theory in … Continue reading

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Understanding and Managing Children’s Unsettled Behavior After Parent Contact

In this audio, drawn from one of my supervision sessions with a local organisation, I lead the group through a reflective process considering the question – why are some children unsettled after birth parent contact? The audio is intended to … Continue reading

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We need to think more broadly than responding to the unmet need

In this video I share my thoughts about the need to broaden the much used maxim in out-of-home care circles, from “respond to the need” to “respond to the reason for the behaviour”. My views are shaped by my observation … Continue reading

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Working with At-Risk Families: The Importance of Regulating Shame

In The Zahir, author Paulo Coelho tells the story of two firefighters who take a break from fighting a forest fire by a stream. The face of one of the firefighters is dirty and sooty. The face of the other … Continue reading

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A Short Introduction to the Kinship CARE Project

Access a PDF of the full article here. In South Australia, forty-six percent of children in out-of-home care with an authority to place are in a kinship care placement. Kinship care is the largest form of out-of-home care in South … Continue reading

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Your child’s CARE requirements through the years

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Guess how much I love you

Guess How Much I love you, by Sam McBratney, was a favourite bedtime story for my youngest son. Such was its impact that the final line “I love you right up to the moon . . . and back” became … Continue reading

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