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Breaking the cycle of children entering state care

One of the more insidious impacts of early relational/developmental trauma lies in the area of language development and, especially, inner state language. In an environment where parents are grossly preoccupied with their own challenges, opportunities for language growth are stunted. … Continue reading

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Update About Me

In this post I share with the reader a statement of my competencies and experience that I bring to my work and any role I am engaged for. It is also represented on the About Me page of this site. … Continue reading

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Diary of a Psychotherapist #3: The impact of a long career in child protection and out-of-home care

This video stems from preparations for supervision I was delivering to a social enterprise that works in the child protection and out-of-home space, with a mind to they might feel acknowledged, and acknowledge each other, in the challenging and rewarding … Continue reading

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Do I support late stage reunification?

Recently, I was asked the question that is the title of this post. The context in which I was asked aligned with my view that this is an important topic for me to share my views on. Just a disclaimer; … Continue reading

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How can I tell what need or experience is the real reason for the child’s behaviour?

Watch this video to hear hear me talk about the real reasons for behaviours of concern exhibited by children and young people recovering from a tough start to life. You will hear about three key reflective questions to ask and … Continue reading

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How do I express unconditional positive regard toward deeply hurt and troubled children and young people?

Transcript: Recently, I have been turning my mind to the notion of unconditional positive regard and how we deploy that when working with deeply hurt and troubled young people. So I think it’s really important to have straight in our … Continue reading

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How do I build trust with a traumatised child?

In this video I share more about Bethany, who finds it hard to trust others, especially adults. In the video I include information that adults who interact with children and young people recovering from relational and developmental trauma need to … Continue reading

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Drawing the line: Regaining parental authority safely when caring for a young person recovering from a tough start to life

Preamble Taking on the care of a young person whose parents were finding life hard, such that their care was inadequate, presents some common challenges for the adults responsible for their contemporary care. These challenges stem from circumstances in which … Continue reading

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Chloe talks about her experience as a child who fosters

Available research, and anecdotal experience, suggests that children and young people who foster play a critical role in the success, or otherwise, of an out-of-home care placement. Children and and young people who foster are the birth children of foster … Continue reading

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I am a Sensitive Child Video

This animated video is drawn from one of my most popular pieces of writing, ever. It tells the story of how a sensitive child thinks, feels, and experiences the world. I anticipate that it will be of most interest to … Continue reading

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