Children first learn that we are accessible to them during infancy when we attend to them whether they are crying or quiet.
Attending to infants whether they are crying or quiet provides experiences of their worth, of our proximity and responsiveness, and of their safety in the world. In time, these experiences support emerging beliefs about themselves, others, and their world that influence a child’s approach to life and relationships. I refer to these beliefs as attachment representations (Pearce, 2016). They are otherwise referred to in the child development and psychology literature as attachment working models or schema. Attending to infants whether they are crying or quiet is also profoundly reassuring, such that they maintain a state of wellbeing and explore their world unhindered by the debilitating and restricting effects of anxiety. Attending to infants whether they are crying or quiet supports learning that adults in a caregiving role can be relied upon to attend to them without having to control and regulate the proximity of adults to make it so.
Accessibility supports a confident approach to life and relationships, exploration, and attainment of developmental milestones.
In tough times, children and young people can experience a heightened need for the profound experience of reassurance that is afforded to them by the presence of an accessible (and responsive) adult. To this end, I developed the infographic below (the third in a series) to provide direction to adults in a caregiving role about how to enrich the experience of their accessibility for children and young people in their care. You can access a PDF of the infographic here.
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