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The Secure Start Podcast Episode 5: Lisa Etherson

Recently, I had the opportunity to talk with Lisa Etherson about her innovative theory, Shame Containment Theory. Shame Containment Theory makes a lot of sense and I particularly liked how it applied to the Netflix series, Adolescence. You can listen … Continue reading

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Diary of a Psychotherapist #3: The impact of a long career in child protection and out-of-home care

This video stems from preparations for supervision I was delivering to a social enterprise that works in the child protection and out-of-home space, with a mind to they might feel acknowledged, and acknowledge each other, in the challenging and rewarding … Continue reading

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Do I support late stage reunification?

Recently, I was asked the question that is the title of this post. The context in which I was asked aligned with my view that this is an important topic for me to share my views on. Just a disclaimer; … Continue reading

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How do I get my child to go to sleep in their own bed?

In this blog I describe a methodology I used with my own children, and recommend in my practice. Before doing so, I would advise that this is a routine that I sustained across years. My children and I enjoyed this … Continue reading

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Attentional factors and attachment security

We all live our life moving between two worlds. In one world, we experience ourselves, others, and our world in a positive way. We notice more of the good things when we are there. In the other world, we experience … Continue reading

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A Short Introduction to Attachment and Resilience

I have maintained this blog site or more than ten years. This will be the 250th post published to it. Given the sheer volume of content I have decided to make a post with links to the posts that I … Continue reading

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Connected Classrooms that CARE: Supporting children recovering from a tough start to life in an era of COVID-19

In this, my third major release during this COVID-19 period, I have turned my mind to the support of children and young people who are recovering from a tough start to life at school. Written for teachers and other education … Continue reading

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A little extra Accessibility in tough times

Children first learn that we are accessible to them during infancy when we attend to them whether they are crying or quiet. Attending to infants whether they are crying or quiet provides experiences of their worth, of our proximity and … Continue reading

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Working with At-Risk Families: The Importance of Regulating Shame

In The Zahir, author Paulo Coelho tells the story of two firefighters who take a break from fighting a forest fire by a stream. The face of one of the firefighters is dirty and sooty. The face of the other … Continue reading

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The Aqua Balloon: An allegory about growth and love from the psychology consulting room

In my therapeutic work with children and young people I incorporate play activities in order for them to experience themselves in a way that challenges existing unhelpful ideas. My intent is to support and strengthen an alternative self-concept that is … Continue reading

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